I am having serious issues finding a bra that fits me. However, since I've been to multiple stores already, I've had some success defining exactly what I need. Previous Qs on bras don't address my very specific petite, plus-size situation. Metafilter, does this bra exist??
For background info, my measurements are:
under bust (band size): 38-39 inches
full bust: 50 inches
upper bust: 44 inches
The sizes that have come closest in a store include 40DDD, 42DDD, 40F or 42F. But these haven't quite fit me. In clothing, I usually wear a 2X or 18-20, and I have kind of a small frame with narrow shoulders, but I'm fat and have a lot of belly fat especially.
CENTER GORE: I'm short from the shoulder to the waist. If the center gore comes up too high, it's a problem. However, my breasts are on the large side, so too small a center gore (as in a plunge-style bra) results in major breast overflow. So a low-ish gore seems to be right (a couple of inches high).
CUPS: Again (I suspect) because of my short-waisted-ness+large-breasted-ness, the DDDs I've tried on are too small at the bottom of the cup and kind of too big at the top, and the Fs are too big all over.
SIDES: I need the underwire/cup part of the bra to go back pretty far on the side of the bra because my breasts start way over under my armpit, not forward of that point as bra manufacturers seem to think it should?!
CLOSURE: Although my underbust measurement is ~38 inches, I have a pretty fat belly that starts just under that, and I *hate* fastening a bra and then pulling it around my body to get the closure part to the back (and most large bras have so many hooks that I can't really do them backwards). A front closure would be a lot better for me!
FABRIC/TRIM: I'm super sensitive and hate all lace, itchy/uncomfortable fabrics, embellishments, etc. I *hate* being uncomfortable due to clothing. :( I kind of hate underwire but I'm willing to consider it again as long as it's not going to be poking me in the armpit/side due to the cups of my bra not fitting me properly.
COST: It would be great if it could be all of the above and cheap, too! We do have an Intimacy store in my area, and I haven't been there yet, but I got a fitting there years ago when I was a completely different size and it was great, but hard on the wallet. This question is sort of my last-ditch effort before I go there.
For the past few years, I've been wearing bras from Decent Exposures
and although they are kind of comfortable and very accommodating of my weird needs for nothing irritating touching me, they are really unflattering and make clothes look bad. I usually wear t-shirts and yoga pants, but I feel like I should probably try to dress more like an adult or something (I'm 34). But all these unsuccessful trips to stores are making me think I should just resign myself to a life of sweatpants and never leave my house. Thanks in advance for helping me to feel like I can leave my house in clothing.