Should I go out with a girl I'm not attracted to?
October 22, 2005 1:14 AM Subscribe
After a somewhat destructive relationship I've been single for over three years and despite a few flirtations have not had a date, girlfriend or anything else for quite some time.
I've ben chatting to a girl online on and off for a while, and she keeps making very clear suggestions that we should 'go out' or 'do something'. Sounds great. The problem is I'm not attracted to her at all.
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (19 answers total)
The lack of attraction isn't just a physical thing (I'm not in a position to judge, really) but she also doesn't 'get' me. We just aren't on the same wavelength.
Now if we do go out - that might be great. Things could progress and we could start dating. If that happened I'd only ever think of it as practice - I'd always be looking for someone else.
On the other hand, I could spend the next year with "No New Messages" on my internet dating sites and sitting at home on a Friday night with old DVDs.
So at some point do you stop waiting for someone who takes your breath away and take whats on offer? Even if that doesn't seem fair?