How do I get the whole dating an old flame thing right?
March 23, 2014 5:01 PM Subscribe
Hi! After being in a really bad relationship for three years, I broke free before christmas. Over the last year I have sort of been texting with and old flame I datet 4 years ago. It was very intense for 3 months, but then it crashed and burned. She got single before christmas as well after being with a guy for three years. I`m 28. She`s 25.
posted by silvershadow to Human Relations (13 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
Two weeks ago we went out for a drink. It was really nice. Talked for three hours. Then I went of skiing for a week. Came back and we spent the sunday together driving around where I live to look at stuff and talk. The next day we went skiing. Three days later we walked my new dog for a couple of hours. It is really nice. We talk really well. But on texting and stuff she is kinda weird. She will text me. Ill answer and she wouldn`t answer for hours. She initiates contact, but then fade of. The texts are really nice and flirty. I have no idea what I am doing. I didn`t plan on doing anything other than being single for a while, but we have a very good chemistry. I really like her. She is funny, sweet, kind and smart. Seems she is very curious about what this is, but at the same time very restrickted. She is very recently single. We havent done anything other than hug when we meet. But that may be normal. I am usually more of a one night stand kinda guy. Except for my last relationship, I have always been more of a hooking up kinda guy. I have never done the whole taking it slow and seeing whats happening kinda thing.
I am terrified about thinking this to death. I dont want to rush her either. I just want to spend time with her.
We are going skiing together this weekend again (daytrip). She wants me to teach her to ski. I am really good at skiing. She is absolutely not. How do I play my cards right. How do I know if shes interested. I dont want to ask her. How do I play it cool and keep her curious about me?