Family reunion too expensive - should we go or not?
March 22, 2014 6:04 PM Subscribe
My grandmother turns 90 years old this year. To celebrate, her daughters decided that the whole family, spread out across most of the country, should all get together in Branson, MO for a week. This is going to be a very expensive trip.
posted by anonymous to Work & Money (20 answers total)
Airfare, food and entertainment, and whatever portion of the cost for renting a couple of condos to house upwards of 25 people. My aunts, while maybe not rich, are decidedly better off than my mother is, and I'm pretty sure they'll be paying for most of their kids, who are all college age or just out of college and don't have regular jobs yet. My wife and I, however, are not really in a position to afford this trip. She's in grad school, I'm covering all the living expenses right now, and in the summer we are moving because our lease is up. This trip would cost us anywhere from one to two thousand dollars, and while we maybe could find the money for it, it would basically put us at zero or just above. My mom can't pay for us and I sure don't want to ask anyone else in my family to cover us.
I feel like this was an unfair decision made without our input. Had they asked us at the beginning, I would have said no way, let's find something else to do, and I feel like they knew that and avoided the conflict by not asking us. Saying no will cause strife in the family; saying yes will cause havoc to our finances. I don't know what to do.