Need space for new family
March 21, 2014 4:57 PM Subscribe
We have a new (4 month old) baby. Hooray! My husband and I both have wonderful parents who want to see their only granddaughter as much as they can. His parents live almost across the country so don't visit often. The problem is with my parents, and I need a reality check about what I'm asking of them- am I setting reasonable boundaries or being selfish?
posted by chela to Human Relations (29 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
We live in a 2 bedroom apartment, one bedroom is ours and one is the baby's. We have a futon in our living room/office area. My parents live about 4 hours away and want to visit at least once per month. I am ok with this, but suggested they stay in a hotel for some/most visits as our apartment is crowded with 4 adults and 1 baby. They were very upset about this.
Here is the situation from my (and my husband's) perspective: we are trying to carve out some space for our new family. We both work, so weekends are our only time to all be home together. We love my parents, but our place is just not big enough and ends up feeling less like a slumber party and more like our home is being taken over.
From my parents' perspective: We are all "family" and they are very generous with us. They always welcome us into their home and are going out of their way to visit us and baby.
Help me metafilter- I feel like I need some objectivity from you all as to whether this sounds cold and selfish or if this is something reasonable that new families do.