How can I get over someone I can't seem to get away from, and resolve conflict/let them know they hurt me?
I wrote a question
about this person a year ago here. Well, I did a lot of hard work trying to get over her, it was semi-successful but very hard and heartbreaking. About one month ago she decided she wanted to initiate hooking up with me.
Well, she apparently had no interest in me other than using me for a hookup and is now hooking up with/seeing another of my friends.
The thing is, she knew for a fact how I felt about her.
I cannot get away from this girl. She seems to know everyone that I know, and now she’s working her way into another friend circle that was a refuge of mine when I didn’t want to see her. As the lesbian world goes, everyone knows everyone. She’s already burned a lot of bridges with people for shady behavior with other people’s girlfriends. I used to trust her but now I don’t anymore.
And yet, I can’t shake this hold she has over me. I never completely got over her I suppose, and the fact that she will crush on all of our other friends and yet won’t even give me a second thought hurts deeply.
Never has one person been able to make me so angry to the point where I’ve literally punched a hole through my wall. Even now just thinking about her makes me almost shake with rage and feel like I’m about to burst into tears.
The thing is, I haven’t told her how much this whole thing has hurt me, or told her anything of what’s going on in my head. I strongly want to, but I don’t know if it will help things or make them worse. I tend to avoid conflict but I don’t know if that leads to me bottling up feelings and resentment. I just don’t know which is better to do. Am I even right to be angry at her? I feel like she has not been a very good friend to me.
How can I get over this person? I can’t seem to get away from her, and she just makes me upset. Do I just cut the friendship without saying a word? Never speak to her again? Or should I let her know what I’m thinking? I usually “let things go” but I feel like I need to share my side of this, and holding it in is causing me to carry around a lot of anger and resentment. I just don’t know how far to take it and how to do it. I usually avoid conflict at all costs, but this time I think bottling it up is making me boil over.