Should I formally thank my boss?
March 20, 2014 10:56 AM Subscribe
I am a hostess at a small, family-owned restaurant. Yesterday, when I got my pay envelope, there was a small note inside indicating that I had gotten a raise (there were no words; it simply showed the hours I had worked multiplied by my new wage). I noted the change, and did not mention it immediately because my boss was not there at the time; I went about my day and forgot about it--until this afternoon.
posted by gypsyroseme to Work & Money (33 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
My boss took me aside this afternoon and asked if I had seen my envelope and if I had noted there was a change. I replied that I had, and quickly felt terrible for forgetting about it (it is not difficult to make me feel terrible or guilty). I thanked her for the raise, and she replied that she had been hoping for some sort of acknowledgement, which I believe is fair. There's no excuse. I just forgot about the small raise, not because I had an attitude of "BOUT TIME" or anything, but because I am not great about remembering things in general, even potentially significant things. I explained to her, by way of (sort-of) explanation, that I wasn't sure if it was a general raise amongst all the hosts, and she said it was not. So, I'm the only one who got a raise. She went on to say that she would expect my lack of acknowledgement from one of the teenage kids who works for her, and not from me, which stung, in no small part because I believe she has a point.
So I'm pretty sure I messed up, at least in her book, although she seemed more disappointed than angry-- but even if I hadn't forgotten, I'm not sure I would have felt comfortable mentioning it as I've never been in this exact situation, and every other time I've gotten a raise, I've been informed beforehand.
So, was I a jerk? As I mentioned before, it is not difficult to make me feel bad about something I've done/haven't done, so my perspective on this could be off. Further, my real question is: if I was indeed a jerk, is a card or something apologizing for not mentioning it, while also thanking her again for the raise necessary? I don't know. I just feel like I was bad and I should feel bad.