How to control limerence
March 18, 2014 12:27 PM Subscribe
Just started seeing a man who I'm a bit gaga about. Trouble is, we both have really important stuff coming up in the next few months and I need to find my concentration again. How do I cope with the desire to see him ALL THE TIME and to remember my other priorities in life?
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We are both in our mid-20s. We've only just started seeing each other and everything is going great, but the timing isn't so ideal - he's away for work for the next couple of weeks, then a month or so after that I have a set of fairly important exams that I need to study for, and he has important deadlines with work around then as well. I've had relationships in the past where I was completely infatuated and hormonal about the other person - this one isn't like that, as it grew from friendship and it's more of a gentle longing kind of feeling - but I am still thinking about him all the time and not doing as much as I should. In the past I used to just enjoy this initial rollercoaster ride, but now (and over the next few months) I really need to knuckle down with the other aspects of my life.
Any tips on how to keep my head on right while still enjoying the initial stages of a relationship?