Do I break up with someone while they are on a 5 week holiday?
March 17, 2014 5:55 AM Subscribe
I have been seeing someone for approx 3 months. It’s exclusive and I feel as though he’s quite into it but at the same time our relationship so far has not been intense at all, quite the opposite and we have both been taking it slowly.
posted by pennywise_1 to Human Relations (32 answers total)
He’s gone on holiday for 5 weeks to SE Asia (currently 2 weeks in) and while he’s been away I’ve had time to reflect on the relationship and I’ve decided I want to break up with him. I won’t go into the details but ultimately I don’t see a future between us and I don’t feel we have the right compatibility. While he’s been away he has been IM’ing me every day so we’re in constant communication. This suggests he’s quite serious about the relationship (we don’t really talk about feelings much so I’ve found it hard to read how keen he is but his actions so far suggest he is)
I think I should wait until he gets back before breaking up with him but some friends of mine are telling me that I should tell him now so that he can ‘get over it’ during the last few weeks of his holiday. it would have to be by IM though as I doubt connections would be good enough for a call. This feels unfair and I also don’t want to ruin his holiday but at the same time it feels wrong keeping up the façade by text/IM and then just dropping this on him as soon as he gets back. At the moment I’ve been acting relatively neutral – not too keen but still responding / being interested in his holiday etc. What’s the best way to approach this?