What to do when women simply don't find you sexy?
March 16, 2014 6:28 PM Subscribe
I've never had too much of a problem finding a date - usually online - because I look really good on paper, have my shit together, and am pretty good at being outgoing and breaking the ice and all without being a total creep like a lot of people seem to have issues with.
But a disturbing trend is starting to take place. I'll be dating a girl, everything will be going good, conversations flowing, jokes hitting, etc etc... and then she'll start to yawn. The date will go on and she'll never give me that playful touch on the arm. When it's over, she'll go in for the hug instead of the kiss. And I try not to look into it, but after 2 or 3 dates pass and we've progressed normally they'll tell me that they just aren't interested. It got so frustrating I asked the last girl to not spare my feelings and let me have it - she told me I don't turn her on. The remains of my shattered ego will be regurgitated inside...
posted by johnpoe50 to Human Relations (70 answers total) 10 users marked this as a favorite
"Sorry, but for your age you have thinning hair. And you're pretty skinny. And you're not really exciting me. That's really it, sorry."
It fucking tore me apart and looking back I can see that all the girls I've dated lately have treated me coolly and I'm worried this is the main reason. I can't grow my damn hair back, I keep it short (I'm not trying for a weird combover or anything). I honestly don't feel like I look bad at all, I've got a good face and I take care of myself even if I'm not a muscle bound jock. And I'm not going after obviously shallow girls just after sex or anything, I'm 23 and am dating girls around my age who mostly say they're tired of playing games and are looking for something more serious. What the hell?
It's really incredibly frustrating. I think I'm just not sexy. Maybe it's my personality too, maybe I'm not "dangerous" or "challenging". But I don't want to change who I am, I want to find a girl who likes me for me. What the hell do you do when you're just not exciting girls?