"I love you" 1) What does it mean? 2) When do you say it? 3) To whom?
March 14, 2014 10:08 PM Subscribe
I'm curious. What's the normal meaning? What's your meaning? Do you have expectations associated with saying it/what expectations?
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posted by chrysanthemum to Human Relations (24 answers total) 11 users marked this as a favorite
I just said those three words to my boyfriend last week, in between kisses, thinking that we were on the same page relationship-wise and that it would be a safe thing to say.
His response was hesitant with a deep caring in his eyes. He told me he has a lot of obligations right now (he's an academic and is legitimately very busy), but that he will be kind to me. He said he's felt a growing affection for me but that he takes his relationships seriously.
They more we talked, the more it seemed that we were actually in agreement, but that our use of the word love was different. I wasn't looking for a change in the relationship, just looking for a way to express my feelings with words. I tend towards using the word love in broader contests, like telling my very close friends, of both genders, that I love them. Maybe that's not normal?
Are there other words that work? What do you guys say to express your affection for a partner early on in a relationship?