NSFW. My partner expressed a desire and I would like to accommodate.
March 14, 2014 7:28 AM Subscribe
How do you arrange a threesome?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (22 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
I'm a hetero female partnered happily, exclusively, and lovingly with a hetero male for one year. We are around 40 years old and divorced survivors of cheating spouses. We feel we have found our soulmates in each other. I do not doubt my partner in any way.
We have a robust, if vanilla, sex life. During recent sex play, I asked my partner to describe a fantasy and he wants a threesome with another female, specifically one who wants to engage in play with me (and then, him).
I'm theoretically fine with this and would LOVE to fulfill his fantasy, and it makes me a bit hot! But I have some questions.
1) I've had only one, tequila-fueled same-sex encounter and really, that doesn't do it for me. I'm not attracted to women. I suspect seeing my man get turned on by it will be different. Any advice or anecdotes?
2) I don't know how to find the third for the threesome. Neither of us want a friend or acquaintance in this role.
I have honestly never done anything crazier than reverse cowgirl, so I am not in the know. I know people do this, but I'm not sure how they do it.
Also, it really turns me on to THINK about doing this, but will I regret it? I adore him and neither of us are cheating types. I'm not jealous, but will it make me jealous? I get turned on thinking of him being turned on, but that's hypothetical.
Thank you for any input.