Am I trying to do too much?
March 8, 2014 6:50 PM Subscribe
When I was younger I wanted to LOTS of things, but never ended up doing anything properly. Over the years (I'm 27 now) some things have settled down and found their places and some I no longer want to do, but I still find I'm not doing everything I want to do as much as I'd like to. Am I expecting too much of myself? Or are there ways I could make it all happen?
posted by miaow to Sports, Hobbies, & Recreation (16 answers total) 43 users marked this as a favorite
I work as a freelance communication designer. I spend enough time on work but I tend to work in intense bursts, which burns me out a bit, so I'm trying to get into a steadier rhythm. If I did manage this, I'd need to work 6-7 hours a day five days a week most of the time.
About routines: I find it difficult to fall into routines, though over the years some things have become easier. I've spent years making elaborate schedules and totally failing to follow them. I now have just a few things fixed on my schedule (waking and sleeping time, meal times, cooking and a few essential chores) and make lots of lists and think a lot about the other things I need/would like to do rather than rigidly schedule them. If they're on my mind, some things find their place in my day. This feels nice and fluid and unregimented, but obviously it either isn't working well enough, or I'm just trying to do too much.
I dance about twice a week. I do the occasional bit of yoga, and I have spurts of regular swimming, but once I stop, I go a long time without sufficient exercise. I've been ill many years and have been well only the last two years after a move to better climate so I'm rather weak and low in energy and would really like to do a variety of exercise to get stronger (long hikes, swimming, short runs, dance, yoga). I'd like to exercise nearly every day.
I'd also like to meditate/spend some quiet time outdoors every day, even just 15-20 minutes. This does NOT happen.
My husband and I cook together, and chores get done (we have help for house cleaning). This isn't really a problem because I usually feel like cooking, and when I don't, the husband does it. We don't socialise a great deal but have friends over a couple of times a month.
The things I'd like to do are practice more piano (I started learning recently and I love every bit of practice); practice singing, maybe join a choir; sew a piece of clothing for myself two or three times a month; find the time maybe once a month to paint; write (poetry/fiction), again maybe once a month at least, grow a few greens on my balcony. I really enjoy these things when I do them, but they don't seem to happen enough to actually grow and learn more.
Most of these are creative things, and I wonder if I'm expecting to spend too much of my time doing active creative things. I end up spending most of my spare time on more passive things like reading (blogs/books) or doing random useless reading on the internet or idling on Facebook or watching movies. But perhaps some of this sort of down-time is needed so as not to burn out? (the answer I want to hear is NO, you can do all you want to do, and this is how... :D)