Is my friend in need of mental health treatment?
March 6, 2014 6:41 PM Subscribe
I have a good friend I've known for years. They've always been always been bohemian and eccentric, with a bit of spiritualism. Lately the spiritualism has gone up, but not drastically so ... or nowhere near to the point of people at a New Age store. This is not worrying in itself, but lately they've been acting very bizarre and alienating friends in the process. When confronted the bizarre acts are brushed off as performance arts or jokes. Not immediately, but when pressed.
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We are good friends for many years. We'll often have inside non-sequitur jokes. For example, like at a high-end restaurant, wouldn't it be better if they had a drag queen show. Sort of random stuff like that, but funnier in context. Lately she's been trying to make these things actually happen ... like trying to get a bunch of clowns to show up at a restaurant. Or booking a DJ at a bar, which doesn't even have a DJ setup, and not informing the bar. These have been alarming her friends who've noted these "acts" are less about the performance and more about the attention being paid to her. Many have asked straight out if she's gone crazy.
I bring up the New Age philosophy only because it seems to justify anything she does. That things can't go bad because someone read her cards, or because she meditated on it. And that everyone, everywhere thinks her ideas are great. There are exceptions, when people are outright dismissive, but I've seen people warily agree with her ideas and have her turn around and act as if that same person was her biggest cheerleader.
A friend told me her mother was manic depressive and that her behavior reminded her of her mother. However, she's never had a depressive side. It is like all manic all the time. And she seems to know when she's on the brink of being a little too crazy and finding an excuse to tone it down. A good example would be, oh I'm just doing this for my friend's birthday, and I'm only doing this because they love the idea, which would not be the case.
One other data point, they've found a certain actor very attractive and have made comments about them eventually ending up together. This is something I might dryly say, as in George Cloney and I will end up together, we just haven't found the spark. She'll bring up this certain actor every once in a blue moon, but then decided they'd message the actor via Facebook to come to her next "act" ... which is disconcerting, but it doesn't go beyond that. She doesn't exhibit any other behavior I've read about, I don't think she's even seen any of his movies and she does not talk about him very often. But when she does it'll be a quick remark like, "I should go to New York, I might run into him on the street!"
I should say her speech is organized and she doesn't sound crazy. She sleeps normally, doesn't do drugs and drinks in moderation. It is like she was always kind of weird, but now I'm beginning to think she does not have perhaps the same reality the rest of us do.
The breaking point seems to be when she recently lost her job and has no plans other than to perhaps work with the local university to develop a music program (she has no background in music, doesn't read music, etc.). And this is all mentioned once, in passing in all seriousness then never mentioned again.
Sorry for the long post. I will get to the point. Does this sound like classic behavior of someone who needs to get help? How best do I help them, or is this stuff not treatable? Age is late 30s, no kids, never married.