Current Job wants me to tell them if I'm looking. Weird?
March 5, 2014 10:04 AM Subscribe
Boss has asked me to let her know if I'm looking. I think it's weird. Am I right?
posted by anonymous to Work & Money (32 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
After a series of very stressful personal events, my boss pulled me in to ask me if I was happy at my current job. There are reasons that I'm not, to be truthful, and I was truthful with her about my current concerns. At the end of this meeting, she and I had a couple of points that we were both going to work on.
Part of the reason she pulled me in was that I was wearing nice clothes a few days before (what?) and I ran a long (~30min) errand in the middle of the afternoon (which isn't . .uncommon? I had the time and the place was going to be closed after 530pm). She asked me if that had been an interview, and truthfully it hadn't been. Then, she asked me if I was interviewing, to tell her because she wanted to support me and also she'd be really upset if I quit without letting them know that I was looking.
My instinct here is that it's all very well for her to have hurt feelings if I'm looking (and, well, I am) but it's not really okay to ask me to tell her if I'm looking or interviewing. For one thing, if I interview and don't get the position, then I think that makes my position where I am much more weak.
So my questions are:
1) Is this a weird thing to ask me to do? Because I think it's weird.
2) Would you ever agree to this kind of thing? All I ended up saying was that I would never b e so obvious about disappearing for an interview.