How to cope with a long distance relationship & losing my independence?
February 26, 2014 3:31 PM Subscribe
I'm 21, I've been living in Canada for six months with my originally long distance partner and now I need to return home for financial and health reasons, leaving my girlfriend and new friends behind. I need advice and coping strategies to deal with a return to a long distance relationship with an unknown reunion date, returning home and then moving to a smaller house where I will have to share a room with my 18 year old brother for at least five months.
posted by fallingleaves to Health & Fitness (4 answers total)
I've been dating my girlfriend for two years, starting when I was in University. We met online and were long distance originally (me in the UK - her in Canada), I got a job in my final year and with mine and her student loans we could afford to visit each other every few months.
After I graduated I managed to get a working holiday visa that would let me stay and work in her country for a year. I've had real trouble finding a job since being here and other than some seasonal work have had absolutely no luck finding anything. I also need to get my wisdom teeth removed which I can't afford and would be covered if I went home. I used the last of my money to buy a one-way plane ticket.
I'm feeling really torn up about it. I also won't have much money when I get home. Before we managed because we could afford to see each other regularly with breaks in-between, now I have no idea when I'll be able to see my girlfriend again and it feels horrible. I feel like I'm losing my independence as I'll be moving in with my mum and brothers (I've been living away from home for over three years now) and to top it all off my mum is downsizing to a smaller house very soon. It feels like I'm losing both my homes as I'm leaving my girlfriend behind in the apartment and my childhood home too. In the new house I won't have my own room or any real privacy as I'll be sharing it with my brother.