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February 21, 2014 12:20 PM Subscribe
How can i help support my partner when he's going through a rough time, when i feel sad too?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (11 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
my partner is wonderful and supportive. he also has probably just lost $7000 to a con artist, who now isn't paying him for work he did in the past. we can live without the money, but there are lots of sad and bad feelings flying around. i suck these feelings up like crazy - i'm practically feeling my partner's feelings these days. things between us are totally great, we get along very well but i want to be a stronger support to him and let him fall apart a little bit - he supports me through my tough times without needing me to "stay strong" for him. we're going to be in a relationship forever (we hope) and lots of crappy crap will happen throughout a lifetime. how can i not let this little glitch (and his understanding sadness and loss of trust in someone who he trusted) bring me down too? how have you and your partner gone through things in the past and had them build up a relationship instead of pulling it down? today was a bad day, with lots of stress and stomach pains from anxiety. can tomorrow please be more fun? thank you.