I just don't know what to do with myself.
February 19, 2014 6:40 PM Subscribe
I'm having trouble meeting people near my area. Any helpful suggestions?
posted by morning_television to Human Relations (11 answers total) 12 users marked this as a favorite
I work full-time at an isolating job all week and when I finally get to the weekend - I have no idea what to do with myself. I've been struggling for a long time with this problem. Meeting people, finding friends. I feel like a lot of it has to do with the area I live in. I'm in central jersey and there's nothing but the suburbs and endless strip malls around me. I have to travel for more than an hour to get anywhere (Philly, NYC).
Ideally, I'd like to meet people with the same interests as me. Art, music, movies, comedy - anything. I've checked meetup.com but almost all of the interesting meetups I'd join are in Philly or NYC and they meet up in the middle of the week. I'm not finding anything else interesting happening near me.
I'm exploring online dating but for some reason I'm not getting any results. I've been told I have a decent profile but nobody ever responds to my messages. Women around my age around here are all mostly young professionals who I feel I'd have nothing in common with. I know I'm unfairly generalizing there but I always think that whenever I'm endlessly browsing through profiles that are nearby.
I'm 27 and I'm definitely in a transitional phase in my life. I don't have a college degree, never acquired a network of friends from college (like most people have done) - and I'm temporarily living at home until I'm financially straight to move out. The friends I do have who live in the area are married and are always busy. Every weekend I always end up by myself. Which is great since I can work on my art or spend time alone but it's incredibly isolating sometimes. And I'd really love to meet new people so I can be distracted from things I don't want to dwell on. I've been in therapy for two months now and it's been helping a lot - I want to put this new confidence I've gained for myself to work!
I know it feels like I'm just making up excuses but I honestly don't know what else someone my age would do to meet people. It's going to be a little while longer before I move out and I really don't want to wait until then.
Any suggestions or inspiring words would help a lot.