What is a reasonable contribution from a daughter who lives at home?
February 18, 2014 5:45 PM Subscribe
Daughter, 23, lives with me. She has had mental health struggles and doesn't feel ready to live alone or with roommates. I'm sure she will someday, but probably not within the next year or even two. She's doing great now. She completed a certificate program and has a full-time job at entry level pay, which will increase with experience. How much is a reasonable financial contribution to the household?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (30 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
This isn't a question of principle for me. While I can meet household expenses on my own, it isn't easy and it's a huge source of stress. (My income is variable.) OTOH, I want daughter to be able to move out someday, and surely she will need savings to do so. I also have a fair bit of shame about not being the middle class parent who could just charge a token amount and not think a thing of it. (My financial situation has drastically changed for the worse over the past few years.) I know that approaches to these issues vary, but would be especially interested in hearing from the Metafilter adults who live with parents and Metafilter parents with adult kids at home. How do you deal with finances? What are your expectations?