How do I process my emotions when I'm bound by confidentiality rules?
February 15, 2014 2:31 PM Subscribe
How do I process my emotions when I am bound by confidentiality rules and can't talk with anyone about what happened?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (26 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
I apologize in advance for the vagueness and lack of details, but...well, confidentiality.
Recently I was part of a group that made an important decision. It was the culmination of a long, grueling process that has taken a lot out of me emotionally. I am absolutely exhausted at the moment. My spouse knows I was part of this process, and can guess that I was unhappy with the outcome. I'm having trouble sleeping, eating, and being "normal" right now, and I know he can tell and is concerned about me, but we can't discuss the specifics.
This decision will seriously affect me, my family, and my community. It was done by a majority vote, and I was part of the minority who voted against it. Part of the problem is that for the foreseeable future, the ramifications of the decision will be part of my daily life, so it's not like I can just forget about it and move on in that way. There is also a 90%+ chance this decision will part of a legal challenge, which means I will have to go through this whole thing again in a courtroom. (This has already been discussed as a likelihood and is not just me catastrophizing.) The thought of this fills me with dread, even though I would actually be glad if the decision were overturned.
What I need right now is to be able to process my feelings emotionally. I am having a very hard time with this, because the way I would normally process this is to talk to my spouse, or close friends, or other professionals in my position. None of these options are open to me. (I'll admit I'm not sure if confidentiality rules apply when speaking to a counsellor or therapist.) There will also be no further discussion with the decision-making group.
This is really the first time I've ever been in this position and I am lacking coping skills in this arena. Have you ever been in a position like this? What did you do?