How can I stop being so miserable with my singlehood?
February 14, 2014 12:19 AM Subscribe
I’ll come right out and say it: I am absolutely miserable being single. I feel like I am missing out on a major aspect of life that everyone else is enjoying at my age.
posted by summertimesadness1988 to Human Relations (45 answers total) 27 users marked this as a favorite
I’m a 25 year old woman, and have seen it all; the lying, cheating, game-playing, the lame excuses of “I’m not ready for a relationship” (often, the guy who says this ends up in a relationship with someone else a month later). I’m sick of getting excited and investing my time and emotions with someone, only to get shot down sooner or later.
I’ve tried everything to improve myself: self-help books, yoga, dance, going out, indulging in other hobbies. They have helped, but only with my personality. I’m definitely a more well-rounded person than I was a few years ago, and I know how to enjoy my life when I’m not reminded of how much it sucks to be single. I am a part of a women’s social group and have made lots of friends that way. (New friends, all of my old ones got into relationships and forgot about me). It helps with the loneliness, but only slightly.
I’m EXHAUSTED. I’m exhausted of trying to keep my head up, telling myself that the right man is on its way. I’m legitimately ANGRY at people who tell me that “it comes along when you’re not looking and least expect it.” I’m a busy girl, yet I see no one coming along. I’m sick of sleeping alone, never cuddling with anyone, never having sex, never having a date on holidays. I’m sick of seeing all my friends move on. We live in a couples’ world. I’m sick and tired of not being invited to gatherings because its always all couples. I’m SICK of seeing people happy and together.
It’s just not fair. I’ve tried enough to stay positive, and I’ve had bad luck in love since high school, throughout college, throughout grad school. Yes, I sound bitter, but only because I have been patient way too long. I was diagnosed with severe depression for the first time in my life a few days ago. I know why I’m depressed, it’s because I’m lonely and miserable. I don’t have the life I want because I can’t find the relationship I want. I deserve it: I’m smart, educated, attractive, and take care of myself. I would never lie or cheat.
My question is: how can I feel better? I feel like I have tried it all and am at the end of my rope here. Therapy, psychics, exercise, meditation, etc. I’m just so tired of it all, because nothing is working. How can I stop being so unhappy?