Is this a date or just a hangout?
February 11, 2014 10:16 PM Subscribe
Alright everyone, this is a hard one. Does she like me? Is this a date, or are just hanging out?
posted by Thisispiggy to Human Relations (27 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
We are both in college. We are both the "reserved" type. That is, we don't go to parties often, don't get drunk often, and work hard in our classes.
I'm a year older and have been friends with her two older brothers. I was the tutor for an organic class last semester, and she happened to be taking the class and needed help, so she came to my review sessions. After a few times, I gave her my number in case she needed more help. We've gotten to know each other better since then.
Fast forward to this semester, she's still taking organic, but I am no longer the class tutor. She still needs help, so we are having one on one tutoring. I took her to a coffee shop and helped her do practice problems, etc. On our way back, she said she really liked the place and would love to go there more often.
So last week I asked her to take a break from studying and if she wanted to go rockwall climbing. I was thinking of last saturday (and then follow up with a date on valentines), but she had other plans already and said maybe this saturday or the next. She seems excited about it, and I hope she's not pushing it back because she doesn't want to go or because she wants to go after valentine's day to not give me the wrong idea. I was slightly upset afterwards when she told me that, but then I thought, well it's pretty cheesy to ask someone out on a date on valentines anyway, and that she does have a valid reason to not go.
I tease her all the time, and she blush and smile very often. I know on paper this sounds like she likes me, but I am so terrible at interpreting signs and would like some feedback from you guys. Anyway, when we have conversations, sometimes we would slow down a bit and hold our gaze for a few seconds, and then we would both smile and continue the conversation. I feel like that's a huge sign, but I look at other girls with boyfriend in the eyes and smile when I talk to them too. I just don't hold gaze with them very long. I feel like she might just be being nice to me, and I'm terrible at differentiating girls from being nice and having interests.
So my two questions are whether she likes me or not, and do you think the rock climbing would be a date or just a hangout if it were to happen? Do you think that she thinks this is a date? I feel like it would definitely be a date if the place is somewhere off campus, but the place is in our university gym, and we can both walk there. So that makes things more blurry.
Just as a sidenote, I've been thinking about her nonstop this past week and have been really eager to see her. I look for her at the cafe and around the chemistry building all the time. I am very idealistic, and when I think about her, my feelings for her are almost beyond the physical. She's pretty, but I also think about her beautiful personality and how I could share my thoughts and feelings with her. Sometimes I feel like this is my flaw and that I always get disappointed. Let's hope that's not the case this time.