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February 11, 2014 8:44 AM Subscribe
I just found out a good friend of mine from high school (whom I lost contact with in college) is a recovering heroin addict. Should I try to contact her? I found out in a very indirect way—details inside.
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I found out in a very odd way, and I'm going to use generalities to keep her from being too easily googled. I was reading some articles online from "Metro Area Newspaper", the same metro area where we went to high school, and where I now live. In the wake of Philip Seymour Hoffman's death, they ran a piece written by a guy who lives in "Nearby Metro Area Suburb" and became addicted to heroin. The piece was about how even a white middle class kid in a nice suburb can become addicted to heroin and very nearly die.
She wrote a comment, under her real name, with some details that make it VERY clear to me that she is the same person I knew with that name in high school. She talked about knowing the author when they were both addicts, and she was happy to hear he is sober. She told her very similar story about becoming addicted, nearly dying, and sobering up. Both the author and my friend mentioned the importance of cutting ties with your previous life and all the things that led, and kept you in addiction.
I've only talked to her once since high school, about 3 years ago. She contacted me through facebook. We met up for a beer. I had recently moved back to the area, and she was getting ready to move out of the area to be with her husband in West Coast City. We talked, catched up, she was nearly ready to graduate from law school. She had a job. She seemed like herself, just like I remembered from high school. She was the president of the debate team, she had a 4.0GPA, she was very driven. We were both pretty straight laced kids in high school, not even drinking/pot.
Piecing together details from that newsarticle comment, at that meeting at a pub, she must have been very recently sober, (I can't remember if she actually drank a beer or not), and was planning on moving in part, to get away from the social circle that led/kept her using.
So, since that meeting she nuked her Facebook account. I have a few round-about ways I could attempt to contact her. I guess I'm asking the question of if this is a good idea or not, and whether or not I'm just indulging a gawkery-impolite impulse. If anyone has some experience from other side of this situation I'd like to hear your thoughts.