Why can't I handle multiple responsibilities?
February 11, 2014 7:08 AM Subscribe
I'm having a hard time balancing school, work, and social life. Teach me how to get my shit together or help me realize that I can't handle everything I've taken on.
I'm doing a post-bacc part-time and working 20-30ish hours a week as a hostess. I'm starting to feel overwhelmed and I'm noticing that I've started to neglect one responsibility or the other (i.e., called out of work twice in the last month, missed class today because I know I have work later).
My parents pay my rent and tuition so the money I make as a hostess is primarily used for credit card payments, groceries/food, transportation, and going out with friends. I wonder if I should take out loans to pay for my cost of living starting next semester so that I can just focus on school and not have a job? I'm trying to pinpoint what it is about balancing the two that is stressing me out. My classes are not ridiculously hard, and my job is mindless. The only thing I can think of is the commute: 30min downtown for school, 45min uptown for work. However, when I used to work really close to my apt, the commute to school felt so long. So I wonder if this is just an issue of laziness/growing up?
I've altered my school schedule so that I have class Mon-Thurs and am off Friday, which I'm hoping will help. I also changed my availability at work so that they can't schedule me on Sundays.
My work schedule is pretty flexible, but again I'm not sure if it's the amount of hours I'm working or just not having the mental capacity to compartmentalize the different aspects of my life. I guess I'm looking for some sort of formula of how to block out the hours/days of my week so that I can get everything done. How many shifts is realistic for me right now to work? I like making money on the side, and would prefer to continue doing so if I can. But I also feel like I can't give 100% to school when I have so many other things on my plate, and school is really my top priority right now.
I also would like to have time in my schedule for therapy (I've started going again recently), yoga, cooking non-shitty meals, and cultivating hobbies. Is that too much to ask? I'm 23 and single and have been making a conscious effort to go on dates, but I wonder if I should cut dating out for now.
Please share with me how you stayed sane and got everything done during times where you had to balance multiple responsibilities.