Going back to a part-time job -- How do I get through this?
February 9, 2014 10:15 AM Subscribe
I'm in my mid-twenties with big career dreams and a history of underemployment and emotional struggles. In order to get back on track, I need to go from being unemployed back to a part-time service job that I hate, and I need coaching on how to get through it with as little emotional agony as possible. I'm estimating that I'll be in the job for four months. More snowflake details inside.
posted by Tulip to Work & Money (9 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
During the time I was unemployed, I was still having challenging but positive and direction-building volunteer experiences. Returning to this job feels like going backwards. The part-time job is a terrible fit for me and very stressful, dealing with great amounts of multi-tasking, yelling, constant engagement with customers and cooking staff and their demands, and a manager who behaves very aggressively (to me too), cuts people down, is rude, gossips about staff, and shouts and curses at/around me. But it's probably only for four months, 3-4 days a week. Then, I hope to switch jobs, start taking classes, and get onto a meaningful (though challenging) professional track that will one day result in good job prospects and pay.
Thinking about going back is making me deeply anxious and unhappy, but I really need the money. How can I make this high stress service job better? How can I get through it? What are some self-care suggestions for me?
(One aspect of this question is that I was in therapy for quite a while with this person I really liked. I don't think I have any mental illness now, but feeling all of this stress again makes me wonder if I should go back for a few booster sessions. But, seeing this person is expensive (for me) and would be at least 10% of my part-time income, and also would come with more feelings of going backwards, which is alarming. I want to feel like I'm going forward.)