Handling a co-worker with a temper
February 4, 2014 6:57 PM Subscribe
Co-worker with a temper blew up at me today. What do I say to him tomorrow?
posted by JoannaC to Human Relations (19 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
I will try to keep this short, so feel free to ask if this is not clear. It was basically a house of cards situation where a two-person supervision task I am normally involved in got delayed by a few minutes because someone was away. Somebody else was filling in for her, but they could not leave their usual post for that time period until a this person arrived to relieve them. When she did arrive, I sent her to get started while I waited for a few stragglers. During this point the co-worker with the temper (who had been waiting for us to relieve him so he could go on his break) exploded at me.
Among his other rantings was a threat to tell the boss; I understood from what I heard after that he did so did so and she pretty much told him that it wasn't her problem and he should talk to me. I assume he plans to do so. So...now what?
I so think he misunderstood the chain of events here and I was blameless in this situation. But irrespective of whether I am right or wrong about that, I feel that I deserves the professional courtesy of him coming to me afterward to respectfully clarify rather than yelling at me in a hallway full of people. Of the two issues (my blame or not, and how it all was handled) that is the point I would like to emphasize. If he does have any questions or concerns or problems with me ever again, I am a reasonable person who can respond professionally and I do NOT care to be yelled at again.
I am going to wait for him to make the first move on this. When he does, how should I attempt to guide the conversation?