Do I respond to this come on from a colleague?
February 4, 2014 8:05 AM Subscribe
I've been Facebook messaged in an ambiguous way but don't want to create any awkwardness at work--how do I respond, if at all?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (31 answers total)
So I have just discovered that about a month or so ago someone in my office messaged me on Facebook to tell me I am hot and enquire whether I am into women (we're both women). I didn't see the message until recently because we aren't friends on Facebook, so it went into the abyssmal "Other" mailbox rather than the inbox.
I don't know this woman. I don't think we've ever been introduced and I don't recognise her, but my friend did and has confirmed that she works with us on our floor. So I very possibly have been walking past her and not acknowledging her which probably makes her feel like I am snubbing her because she sent me this message that I never acknowledged. But I never saw the message.
I feel this is a fairly unprofessional of her to Facebook message me something like that anyway, but I don't want to make her feel bad or create workplace hostility or anything. I was going to just ignore the message (especially as it's sat in my mailbox so long anyway) but my friend is insisting that I should respond. I am not sure if the insistence is purely based on good manners or if the aim is to stir up drama. I don't want to stir up drama. If you'd sent the message, would you want me to respond to it after this long? Should I acknowledge it in any way? I'm also aware that she may possibly be more sensitive about me not responding because we're both women and she sort of put herself out there and I don't want her to think the lack of response had anything to do with that.
(I don't think it's relevant but if it matters, I'm not interested in starting anything up with someone I work with and I've got a partner anyway.)
I realize this is a bit ridiculous so thank you for any help here.