Dude, you just have to go
February 3, 2014 9:19 AM Subscribe
Asking for a friend: How do you get your abusive husband to leave your house after you have filed for divorce?
posted by dawkins_7 to Human Relations (26 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
My friend is divorcing her abusive spouse but he won't accept it and he won't leave. He is so far in denial that he thinks she had the divorce papers served on him just to hurt him and now that that's done she's ready to reconcile with him. His behavior is getting more bizarre by the day and includes hours long bouts of shouting and ranting that ranges from "it's all your fault" to "I'll do anything if you'll stay". He keeps her up all night when she has to go to work in the morning. He is starting to do this in front of the children now and just simply can't stay in the house any longer.
Meanwhile, my friend works and pays 90% of the bills and has for the last 5-6 years. They are both on the mortgage but only she pays the payment. They have a lot of equity and it's not something she can just walk away from (he says "you can't sell this house, it's mine!").
Here are my questions:
1. Will the police have to be involved to get him out? If so, how does that work and do you know of anyone who has had to go through this process?
2. Is there any other way to get him out of the house? Since the divorce papers have been served already, the locks on the house can't be changed at this point.
3. Have you had any other experience dealing with someone like this in a situation like this? He is acting irrationally and just won't understand that the marriage is over.
She does have a lawyer but is interested in a broader range of advice and experience.