How to go into (adult) society again
January 31, 2014 12:16 AM Subscribe
Any tips to start socializing and living again after a long period of being anti-social/irregular life?
posted by ichomp to Human Relations (6 answers total) 13 users marked this as a favorite
For the past 2 to 3 years, I've made unemployment or finding a job the biggest part of my identity (per my question history). It was all I'd talk about with friends, and even when I wasn't talking about job stuff, I was talking about distractions such as kpop rather than myself. I developed bad habits that I want to break now. Bad habits such as:
1) Avoiding real conversation and talking about my day/ what I do
2) Feeling like I don't deserve to go out/have fun unless I'm earning money. This is true.. but it seems like wasting life to not live because I'm unemployed.
3) Being negative/ judgmental -- at first to myself, then to everyone else
I'm really scared that I won't find the positive/lighthearted part of myself back. It will take time and work to get rid of the bad habits. I think I'm going to start a new job soon.. how will I interact with coworkers/bosses professionally? How do I stop judging myself and others?
The other thing is that I've been a student, so I'm not sure how to interact at work. Maybe I'm overthinking. Just be friendly, polite, and show courtesy/interest in others? I'm a bit scared because I've had bad experience with workplace politics and coworkers in the past.