Our cat is getting extremely hostile to us. What next?
January 29, 2014 10:12 PM Subscribe
Our cat is acting more and more irrational. I think we will have to have him put down. Any thoughts welcome.
posted by kestralwing to Pets & Animals (36 answers total)
Our cat found us three years ago, a tiny kitten on the point of starvation, according to the vet. He was completely feral, unused to any touching, but gradually came to enjoy "careful" petting. He joined two other cats, much older, and they get along. What he seemed to like most was just being in the room with us. Like our other cats, an indoor/outdoor cat; we have a covered porch with a safe place for cats.
In the last six months, he has started attacking us. At first it was when we wanted him to do something he didn't want to do, like leave the bedroom or get off the dining table. We never hit him, even a token smack, because instead of making him retreat, hitting caused him to declare all out war. For awhile he would retreat if a napkin or magazine were flapped at him and we firmly and loudly said "NO!", but now he's started to jump up near us to get petted, accept a tiny pet, and then try to bite and claw -- very seriously.
Other changes: he goes to the door frequently, and will sit in the doorway lashing his tail, indefinitely, but won't go out. And he's gained a lot of weight in the last six months.
So the obvious answer is "Go to the vet." But we're on a fixed retirement income and already deeply in debt for dental work and a new sewer line. If it were as simple as an abscessed wound or infected tooth, we'd take him anyway. But this seems like a case of lots of tests, and if they do find out what's wrong, either surgery and/or regular pills, shots, etc. He HATES the vet, and has to be sedated to just be looked at. And in the meantime, he gets more and more potentially dangerous. (Isn't fighting with the other cats, but avoids them.)
To add to this, we are now taking part time care of a baby who just learned to crawl. I can't possibly have them together, but shutting the cat away from people just makes him worse. Mr. Kestralwing says we have to have him put down. Killed, to be more honest about it. But we can't give him to the Humane Society, he'll bite and scratch a few people there and they'll put him down. It's our responsibility, and I won't just foist it off on someone else.
I've had cats die from trauma, and I've had to have several very old cats put down at the end, and I had one cat declawed after he almost took out my eye (the outcome of that was very positive, the cat calmed down since people weren't so jumpy around him). But I've never been in a situation like this.
So, as I say, looking for opinions and stories of your similar experiences. Thanks.