Help me forget my ex-husband and move on
January 27, 2014 9:17 PM Subscribe
Help me forget my ex-husband and move on -- Details inside and in my previous questions here
posted by Spice_and_Ice to Human Relations (15 answers total)
I had a very stressful marriage with my ex, and I decided to move on with my life, as I didn't want to flush my happiness down the toilet by being with him. But the issue is that he is my child's father, and so will always be a part of my life. In his own words during his recent visitation, he said "there is no clean break here". That thought made me feel weird. Happy and sad at the same time. Don't get me wrong - he was and is and will always remain terrible for me. I really want to move on.
I've been going to therapy and my therapist is great with a capital G. I haven't started taking anti-depressants yet but am self medicating (alcohol) and I want to stop before it gets harder to. Not an addict, and don't want to become one ever.
He drives me crazy - normally I'd say I am a quiet person. Not shy, not submissive. But just not loud and boastful or aggressive. But when I have a tiff with him, he really manages to press my buttons. I need to get a grip on my feelings of anger and I'd really appreciate any help with this.
Another issue is that single parenthood is hard and the sleepless nights, lack of exercise and proper diet etc has taken a toll on me. I feel older and I feel like I look older too :((( While he continues to look younger splashing money on teeth whitening systems. It may be that I am just frustrated. But I really need to get out of this rut while being a great parent. And I need to believe that there are other good men out there...
I really want to go back to being happy and driven and motivated. Life is kinda hard and I feel like I am lost.... I am very lonely :(
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