Question about violent language used by a 6 y/o boy
January 20, 2014 2:00 PM Subscribe
I am wondering about the language of a 6 y/o boy. It seems unusually graphic and violent for his age. Is it? If it is not normal, help me learn how to react to the things he says.
posted by vincele to Human Relations (24 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
I am around a 6 y/o boy who says things like "I am going to kill myself" and "I am going to kill you" off the cuff when he's running around. In his pretend play he uses violent scenarios like sticking his head through a window or smashing my face in a garbage compactor. This talk is continual. He engages in this talk with me (a close female relation), his 3 y/o brother, and in front of but not directed to his grandparents and parents. He never hurts himself or others.
I am also around his 3 y/o brother a lot. In his play he imagines eating people, being in monster's tummy, flying away, or being in jail. This all seems normal to me.
These kids don't have guns or other weapons for toys and they do not watch violent tv or excessive tv. They do not play with friends from school or the neighborhood.
I do not have kids but I've cared for little kids quite a bit over the years and like being around them. I am concerned about his behavior so I wanted to canvas metafilter.
I should make clear that I'm not asking what causes his behavior. He's got a lot of stressors in his life that are too complicated to go into here. Suffice to say he is well cared for by whatever rubric the state would use to assess the situation, and I am not in a position to intervene in his care at this time.
So my questions are:
1) Is the violent language I described something to worry about? I am open to being told that it is normal for boys that age to talk like that.
2) If it is not normal, where can I read about how to tailor my interactions with him to best help him?
3) I'm also looking for suggestions about what to say to him based on your own experiences with kids like him.
Thanks for reading all this.