How can I show my older brother I appreciate him?
January 19, 2014 11:04 PM Subscribe
I have a great older brother. He’s supportive, generous and very caring in his own I’m-sensitive-but-pretend-not-to-be sort of way. Sometimes I feel like he gives me a lot, and I give him little in return. How can I show him my appreciation?
posted by dean_deen to Human Relations (11 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
I would like to give something back to my brother for being a good sibling, but I’m stuck for ideas on how I can do this. He is eight years older than me, and in addition to being good at traditionally masculine things—carpentry, electronics—he’s also got some considerable domestic skills, like cooking, basic sewing, etc. Needless to say, he’s pretty self-sufficient, so I can’t really teach him how to do anything. He’s the one who helps me with things most of the time.
When we lived together, I liked to think that perhaps I gave back in our relationship by just being there as a sounding board when he needed to rant, and by asking about his friends, work, etc. I feel like this is how I help my older sister, who is also considerably older than I and also very self-sufficient. Now my brother and I live in different states. Unlike my sister and I, we don’t talk on the phone very often, because he’s not the type who wants to make small talk every few days. But I do call him every now and then just to see how he’s doing, and sometimes we send each other links or communicate via Facebook message.
I may be moving in with him again later this year. If that’s the case (and even if it isn’t), I’m wondering what I can do to show him I appreciate him. So far I’ve come up with sending him a card thanking him for being a good brother, buying him a guidebook for a site in Europe that he wants to visit and picking up the check more when we go out to eat, because he’s paid for me more often than I can count. Any other ideas? If any of you have had older siblings who have been the major givers and caretakers in the relationship, how did you show your appreciation for them?