How do I adjust my attitude on my once beloved job?
January 16, 2014 7:02 AM Subscribe
I loved my job. Now due to personnel changes I don't like it at all. I can't leave. How do I let go of what I once loved?
posted by anonymous to Work & Money (10 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
Last year was my first time working full-time. I don't even make enough money to move out of my parents. But I loved my job. I make a difference to someone everyday. This year I have the same supervisor but a change in one person with the same title as me. We aren't as close as last years' team but I still loved working.
About a month ago a fourth person was added to our team after her supervisor changed positions and they merged her in with mine. I've tried to like my new normal and come into work with a positive attitude but it isn't working. She is constantly stepping on my toes and today at a chaotic moment I did snap a little. I have been working with this client for 1.5 years and her telling me how to do my job (we have the same position), that I'm quite good at just pissed me off so much that I told her that this is how I like to do things. I'm not proud of that moment (which happened privately, not in front of anyone).
We just have a personality conflict. I've dealt with a lot of people who drove me crazy (I've worked part-time here for over 5 years) but I've never felt so frustrated. I might be leaving in a couple months, but I may not (for unrelated reasons).
I'm usually laid back and never have problems getting along with people. I'm struggling to adjust to my new normal where work isn't a sanctuary but the least rewarding thing I do. I've worked jobs I didn't like, with people I didn't like, but for some reason I'm having trouble just seeing this as a job (while not my ideal ultimate position it is closely related to the type of position I do want).
My work is too dependant on others to ignore her completely though I don't talk to her more than necessary. I can't change the circumstances but I'm hoping I can change my reaction to them. I'm sure therapy would be great but I have a disability that leaves me with no reliable transportation in a city where cars rule.