Sex-positive resources for a 40-something feminist woman?
January 13, 2014 2:00 PM Subscribe
I'm looking for recommendations for forums, blogs, Tumblrs, whatever that focus on sex-positive content, specifically spaces that are welcoming to feminist women.
posted by misha to Grab Bag (9 answers total) 40 users marked this as a favorite
I feel that the feminist blogs I am familiar with tend to either avoid sexuality altogether or alternately frame sexual issues almost exclusively around pornography and the "male gaze", stressing the negative.
When I look at other, non-feminist blogs geared to women, the focus often shifts to new motherhood and/or raising kids. Though helpful in the past, I am at a different stage in my life now; my kids are grown.
Where are the women who like sex and don't mind talking frankly about it? The women who enjoy porn as long as no one is being exploited? And who maybe even share helpful advice and links to the good stuff?
Of course, I'm also open to general interest sites where frank sex talk happens. I have no problems with a side order of taters along with my sexysex talk! I'm not squeamish about kinks and fetishes, either (I draw the line at safe, sane and consensual--bestiality or rape, for example, is obviously NOT okay). I have read a number of previous AskMes, though, advising women in general and feminists in particular to steer clear of various general-interest sites like Reddit because they "don't do feminism well".
I would just like to discuss issues related to sex online, without feeling like I have to justify it to anyone on the one side, or fend off come-ons and rape threats on the other extreme. Been there, done that.
I'm also interested in books or other sex-positive material, especially from a woman's POV, that I may not be aware of (say, within the last couple years). Bonus points for post-menopausal references with the same criteria as all of the above.