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January 8, 2014 6:34 PM Subscribe
I have recently been diagnosed with a serious health condition which means after a few months I might not be able to go on holiday for many years. I want to go on Holiday and my bf doesn't. DTMF?
posted by krisb1701d to Human Relations (41 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
I have recently been diagnosed with severe kidney failure, with a view to going on dialysis in the spring, which means after March I will not be able to go on holiday for many years.The average wait for a kidney is 5 years and i haven't been on holiday in 5 years. I want to go on Holiday and my bf doesn't. DTMF?
We have been together a year and have had a few ups and downs, when i told him of my health condition he was very supportive, said he loved me and we would get through it together.
I decided after Christmas that I wanted to go to Las Vegas for 2 weeks before i'm stuck on a machine 3 days a week to stay alive. The first problem is that I will be putting the holiday on my credit card to pay off over the next year. He feels that I am being reckless, I feel like I want to see america because i do not know what is around the corner and money is just tokens after all.
Secondly, He has £25k of savings and said that he feels 1-1.5k is too expensive for a holiday. I originally wanted to go to Hawii or BoraBora or Sweden, as I wanted to do something remarkable, living in Ireland those things are pretty awesome. But they turned out to be between £3-4k so I compromised at Las vegas with flights and good hotel about £700.
Further, I wanted to go for 2 weeks, and him 10 days so I agreed and shortened it even though I practically cost the same as the bulk cost is in the flights. We disagreed over text three nights in a row now about the holiday, Hotel, ETC and I kept asking to wait we will do it when we are together.
Finally some of my friends would like to go and are also stretching finances but 3-4 of them have decided to go and he didn't like that, thought it was just going to be the two of us. So he blows up and says its looking too expensive for him, and I am upset because the money is nothing to him, he is very tight with his money. He said that I invited my friends and decided on the place and hotel without a proper joint decision, that I am being selfish. I said I am going and you can come or not. I will have to finalise things tomorrow. We have done this a few times, where i live in the moment and he wants to plan and be responsible. I'm an etrovert and him introverted so we have these kinds of clashes occasionally.
But this time i dont hve the energy to fight. Do i go without him, i mean i cant see how he can love me so much yet not understand why i want this, or am i being extremely reckless?
Thank you so much in advance, i'm just so angry and my judgement will be clouded so i don't want to say anything horrible I will regret, email@example.com