Thank you cards for friends who didn't give a wedding gift?
January 7, 2014 11:55 PM Subscribe
A surprising number of our wedding guests (both friends and family) did not give us a gift. I was really happy they could come and I'd like to thank them, but I'm worried it will come off like I'm chiding them for the lack of gift. On the other hand, I got a note like this once and that's how we all realized the gift had gotten lost in the mail. Have your ever purposefully not given a wedding gift or forgotten to give one? How would a thanks-for-coming card come off to you?
posted by Gravel to Human Relations (42 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
Part of me is perplexed by the lack of gift or card because it seems so out of character for all my kind and generous friends and relatives. I know it's not worth thinking about, but despite myself I have come up with a series of ever-weirder explanations (they all coincidentally forgot; wedding gifts recently became rude where I live and no one told me; they formed a pact against wedding gifts; they're doing a group sociology experiment on us; they all secretly dislike me etc). Clearly there's a bit more going on for me here mentally than confusion about basic thank you note etiquette (I'll spare you the paragraphs), so I'm having trouble thinking about this clearly.
bonus sub-question: Have wedding gifts become gauche amongst the west coast tech world environmentalist hippie set? That would clear up a lot of my confusion.