Do we actually share a mysterious lineage, or are they just infatuated?
January 5, 2014 6:37 PM Subscribe
The other evening, as I was standing checking my pockets for something outdoors at a busy transit connection point, I was accosted by a person in their mid-20s (I am older) who first walked past me, then stopped and walked back towards me and said something (in an indeterminate, non-English accent, possibly of Eastern European origin, and in what struck me as an accusatory, perhaps even bitter, tone of voice) about my not recognizing someone from "your lineage."
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Their tone of voice suggested at least bitterness and frustration, if not outright anger. This is a person who I've seen on-and-off for a number of years on the street in different parts of the city (though this is the first time in the last year or so), and who even began frequenting the same cafe as me at certain point (I often sit outdoors when the weather is nice, so it is within the realm of possibility that they saw me sitting there as they walked past one day and decided to start going there themselves in order to increase their chances of connecting with another person, such as myself, from their "lineage.") I have never spoken to them, though I was always aware that they seemed to take note of me in a way that most strangers do not. I should note that my city is noted for the chilliness (albeit politeness) of its inhabitants, and it is generally frowned upon to talk to strangers or people who aren't part of the same circle of friends or acquaintances.
After they said the bit about our "lineage," and my apparent non-recognition of it, they walked off, and, slowly gathering my wits, I called after them, asking them to come back (hoping to get to the bottom of what this is all about and what, precisely, our apparently shared lineage might be). However, in response to my request for them to return, they turned back and spat out (that really does seem to be the best term for it) that they are "not a dog that returns when you ask it to come back," and then continued on down an escalator.
What the hell is going on here? Do I have a stalker of sorts? Who uses this term "lineage" in such a manner, and feels justified in approaching perfect strangers accusing them of not recognizing that you (seemingly) share one? My ancestors, by the way (if that is what they were referring to when using the term "lineage"), are English, French, and Irish (though this person's accent was definitely not any of those). Should I just ignore them if/when I see them again? Is this just random weirdness? Is it more likely that this is a case of unrequited love/lust, and they are using the line about unacknowledged shared lineage to express their bitterness/frustration/anger at my unresponsiveness to them while cloaking the fact that their interest is romantic or sexual in nature? Has anyone here been on the receiving (or giving!) end of this sort of thing before?
I have left genders out of this question since, although some may feel that it might help clarify the dynamics, upon consideration I came to the conclusion that it might just as, or even more, easily muddy the waters so the wording here is gender-neutral.