Am I being strung along or is he just scared and taking it slow?
January 4, 2014 9:11 AM Subscribe
I need advice about my boyfriend: I think I might be being strung along, but can't tell.
posted by Butterflye1010 to Human Relations (29 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
We are both in our early 30's. He has never had a long-term relationship and only said "I love you" to one girl- again a short-term relationship that broke his heart. He usually does the ending of relationships.
Background: We were acquaintances first and he pursued me for a while. Then we drunkenly kissed one night and he asked me out. We dated for about 3 months and then he broke up with me suddenly without much explanation. 2 months later of no contact, he reached out and begged for a second chance. He seemed genuinely sorry and missed me so I granted it. I know he's a good guy, who's close to his family.
We've now been dating again for 4 months and I just feel like he's withdrawing again. We never have sex and he hasn't told me he loves me. But he ACTS like he loves me though. He's very tender. I've met all of his family and friends. He's very independent and very much an introvert. He likes to stay at home and hates spending money. I'm opposite. I like to be social, but we have a good time when we're together.
I'm starting to feel anxious about this whole relationship- the fact he pushes/pulls, the fact that he's not interested in sex with me, and the fact that he hasn't said the 3 words. I think I'm starting to act out my anxiety more when I'm with him, which is causing him to withdraw more.
Should I confront him about it or just keep taking it slowly? I know relationships freak him out. I was actually told by a friend of us that this was a long time for him (our relationship). Maybe I'm just too close to the situation to see clearly.