dumped by email. Wrote a response. Send or not send?
December 29, 2013 6:08 PM Subscribe
I was in a relationship with a girl for 3 months. In the final weeks she became increasingly distant, but assured me that it was only because she was stressed out and depressed and we were good.
We spent Christmas together, then the day after she dumped me by an email that was full of bullshit . We talked for a bit after she sent the email, where I never said anything I would regret but only that it was unfair how she handled it. And I said I wasn't angry.
posted by atetrachordofthree to Human Relations (35 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
The next morning I realized that I was incredibly hurt. Breaking up is hard, but what's harder is that she treated me in such a cheap way, and I can say with clear conscience that I dated her with integrity.
I wrote an email response that basically said: I actually am angry. it wasn't the break up that was hurtful; it was how she handled it: lied me and strung me along (during which time she also watched me run around like an idiot trying to "cheer her up"), and then dumped me like a used napkin.
I don't want her back. I just...
In the three months we were together, I was kind and good to her in every way possible. I cherished her, and I was always honest. I never lost temper and was always respectful.
In the dump email she tried to justify the lying and the email with "I don't want to hurt you."
and I feel like she'll probably feel better about herself if I leave thing as it is (where I was like "I'm not angry"), but I also feel like she doesn't deserve this level of kindness. Why should she get to feel like she did the right thing? Why should she feel all good about herself not hurting me?
But in the mean time, I don't want to sink to her level.
Should I send the email? Should I not? Any thoughts would help. Thanks me-fi.