Lecturer's odd behaviour from the semester is still niggling at me, what was it about?
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So. I'm not the most socially aware person, although I have made thousand-fold advances since going to uni as a mature student. In one particular class mid-semester, the lecturer kind of... well... 'picked on me' is perhaps the best way of describing it. In like a teenage/school yard fashion. Or maybe negging? I'm not sure. It left me pretty confused.
My class for his particular subject is very small, there are only 4 of us (2 males, 2 females) and that day the lecturer waited for the 4th person to arrive before starting class. This waiting is a regular thing because of the odd-shaped campus (as in, he wasn't pissed off by it or anything) and we all sort of chitchat together to pass the time. Anyway, the other female student mentions that a food from my hometown won an award, it was in the news. Everybody knows I come from hometown because of my pronounced accent. Imagine that the food = turkish delight, for example. I kind of laughed and went "Oh yeah, lol, that foodstuff is yummy!" But the lecturer suddenly said in a loud voice the equivalent of "It's just JELLY!" We all went quiet and a bit 'WTF?'
I said, still vaguely chuckling, "People think that, but it's actually different - still delicious, though!" And again he spat "I just don't get the fuss, it's just JELLY!!" By this point, everybody had a 'woah' expression, but the last classmate arrived and class started as normal. I brushed off what'd happened and got down to note taking.
However, this sort of odd butting-in / put-down happened twice more in that one class:
- The wind rattled the room's windows and he paused to secure the sash. One of the guy students commented that he was happy his house is so close to the campus, otherwise he'd be blown away on the walk home. We all laughed and I said something like "Yeah, imagine my [famously small car] on the motorway in this weather!" Lecturer responds with "Well those [famously small cars] rattle like tin cans, that's what you get for driving one."
- It is a class in medieval linguistics, and we were introduced to a word called 'goll' in relation to swallowing/coughing (I think, it's hard to recall). Lecturer asked if we knew anything about this word and I (stupidly) said "Does it relate to 'Gollum', from LOTR and how he coughed and hacked so much?" Which got him so riled up, I felt like telling him to calm the fuck down. The lecturer went on a mini-rant, saying "Tolkien was a fraud, a fake! And a plagiarist. He just stole whatever he wanted and wrote whatever"
At this point, even though he's been perfectly fine in previous classes, I think he's got serious issues. I just blank my expression and get on with the class. No engaging, not another peep, just listening and notetaking until the class was other. Classes for the rest of the semester with him after that went fine, probably because I literally walk in, take notes and leave. When I was ill, he allowed me an extension on an essay - but when I handed it into his office (looking like death ((I usually make an effort to look smart/put together)) and unable to speak, only snot everywhere) he kind of picked up the essay by its corner and went "Are you contagious? You can sit at the BACK of today's class..." Gee, thanks.
It's also probably worth nothing that the lecturer is in his early 30s, around my age as I'm also 30 (and female, if I haven't mentioned it). He's short (doesn't help though that I'm nearly 6ft) and he has - there's no other way of saying this - unusual facial hair. Think a typically 1930s villain twiddly moustache with, um, chin hair. Not quite a soul patch, definitely not quite a beard. If it helps, we call him the 4th Musketeer / D'Artagnan outside of class. He dresses 'normally' otherwise in jeans and jumpers. I don't know if his appearance + attitude are related, just mentioning it to avoid follow-ups.
Now, this issue isn't the end of the world to me or anything. It's just an odd situation I'd like for others to parse, as I've a feeling there was something going on that day, outside of him having a bad day, that I wasn't catching. I don't think he was over the line, just a dick. I have zero intentions of reporting him and I'm not traumatised, just honestly really curious. Strangely enough, I got the highest grade in the class! So, I'm more confused than feeling hurt or anything.