Help me get rid of my 'idea possessiveness'
December 28, 2013 8:07 AM Subscribe
I have a tendency to be protective or possessive over what I consider to be (but isn't at all) my personal intellectual property. I would like to figure out ways to get rid of this feeling. Examples inside.
posted by ladybird to Human Relations (25 answers total) 11 users marked this as a favorite
I don't really know exactly what this feeling is or what it is called, so here's some examples.
+ If I made a good dish and somebody asks me for the recipe, I'm secretly reluctant to give it to them.
+ If I stay at a really nice hotel, I don't like to tell other people exactly where/what it is.
+ I feel a weird twinge if someone talks about, posts pictures of, etc., a unique place I have been to (especially if I went there first). Same with books, movies, etc.
+ Imitation is not flattery to me, it's irritating. If I wear an item of clothing and another friend shows up wearing it later, I am secretly annoyed. Incredibly I even sometimes feel annoyed if I see a stranger wearing an item I own!
I generally manage to hide this feeling in front of others, but I'm bothered and embarrassed to feel this way. I think psychologically it might be somewhat rooted in the experiences I had working at a creative agency, where your unique/clever ideas were your path to success and there was often 'idea stealing' and various kinds of backstabbing.
I have started trying a form of aversion therapy, i.e. forcing myself to offer recommendations and provide info on things I 'discovered' to others, but so far I still feel weird and annoyed. I would like to know if others have this feeling, what to call it, and ways to successfully overcome it.