Sexism for neckbeards
December 26, 2013 2:51 PM Subscribe
Please share with me your absolute beginner level resources to foist upon an unexamined sexist. Snowflake level: special needs.
posted by Iteki to Human Relations (22 answers total) 31 users marked this as a favorite
My brother is the living embodiment of the Simpsons Comic Book Guy and in his late twenties. He is somewhere on the autism spectrum (ASD diagnosis, but diagnoses here are v. shoddy) and with some general learning disabilities but absolutely not disabled to the extent that he can be considered to "not know what he's saying". His garrulous nature leads to him regularly sharing provocative or offensive opinions. Some of this is just him expressing himself terribly and I do take that into consideration, for example I don't think he's racist even if it may sometimes sound that way. I do however think he is a pretty deep-seated sexist.
His media consumption reinforces this; a lot of pretty crude male comedians and podcasts, he loves Kevin Smith (nothing wrong with that per se, but in aggregate and without reflection), he literally only consumes male media and was very dismissive when asked if he listened to any female musicians. He has a very black-and-white idea of masculinity. His taste in podcasts etc also leans to the cynical/snarky, which he then regurgitates but can't expand on. He ends up sounding like a mean, unfunny misogynist. I wish better for him and for us who spend time with him, he really can't afford to alienate more people.
TLDR: can I please have some good, readable links that I could encourage him to look at about sexism and examining ones own thought processes and how others perceive them based on how they express themselves.
Bonus: podcasts or twitter-personalities that are pro-women, ideally perhaps with men and women co-hosting in a non-sexist manner and involve games, comics and movies.
The neckbead crack may seem unkind, but consider it a shorthand to help you conceptualise the dude. He would happily say m'lady and literally has wanted both a fedora and a leather trenchcoat, he believes in fake gamer girls and really wants Chyna to be cast as Wonder Woman.