Good job offer's deadline is up, but a preferred job offer is incoming.
December 25, 2013 5:10 PM Subscribe
I have a good job offer in hand, but the deadline was today, and a preferred job offer is close enough that they say they're just waiting for the offer letter to be signed. Special details inside.
posted by anonymous to Work & Money (19 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
There's a long convoluted story to this, but I'll spare most of the details. Basically there's Job Offer A, which is pretty nice and is the result of a friend / former colleague really sticking her neck out in recommending me, and Job B, which is much preferred. The deadline for Job Offer A was this past day (Christmas Eve), and I'd already convinced them to extend the deadline once (which they didn't seem happy about.) Job B knows that I have Offer A, and has been trying to work within the deadline, and then the extended deadline, but seems unable to. They had me go out for a second in-person set of interviews at a second site, and said I could receive an offer very quickly after that to respect this extended deadline. Well now the interview's over, this was the day to decide on Offer A, and they still haven't come out with an offer letter. I did get a reply saying that the company has a holiday on Christmas Eve and Christmas, and that the main person in charge of hiring is on a long vacation. I got a later email that they are ready to extend an offer to me, they're just waiting for a signature (from the guy on vacation) on the offer letter before it can go out.
At the suggestion of my family, I'm not replying to Offer A today because it's unlikely they'll be checking for the email during the Christmas holiday, and I should be safe replying to them on Thursday. But obviously this has me very nervous.
Long story short, Job B has represented to me (informally) that they want to give me an offer, but the details are unclear and there's no actual offer yet until they get a signature, and the guy is apparently on vacation for a while. Meanwhile, Job A needs an answer on Thursday, or else I'll be offer-less (if I'm not already offer-less). The additional wrinkle in this is that if I accept Offer A and then decline it later, it would damage my reputation in a relatively small field, and damage my professional relationship with my friend (who really did help me out here, and it's possible her reputation is on the line too.)
I feel like I'm in a rock and a hard place, with a major life decision being held up because of a signature on a piece of paper. And I can't tell if I'm being played by Job B somehow. Any advice would be helpful.