All I Want for Christmas is to be Negative
December 24, 2013 9:03 AM Subscribe
I had an encounter with another man several weeks ago. I would normally wait for the end of the three month window to check my status, but I have recently gotten sick, which (given the vague symptoms listed for acute retroviral syndrome) has me spooked. I have made arrangements to get tested later in the week by DNA PCR (18 days after exposure, with the understanding that I will still get tested at 3 months), which should give me a decent degree of confidence whether I have HIV and whether these symptoms are ARS. However, I won't get these results until well into next week.
In the meantime, it's the holidays, and I need to keep up my spirits and not cause chaos with 'what ifs
.' Not that this is a conversation I'd ever feel comfortable having with my family. I'm feeling really isolated and am spending too much time inhabiting my own head. I could really use some external feedback about how high my risk is and whether I have any right to be this worried.
Handwringing details inside.
posted by anonymous to Health & Fitness (17 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
- I had an encounter with a guy where I was on the bottom without protection.
- He pulled out before climaxing.
- We spoke about our status before/after the encounter, and I have seen his negative test results dated less than a week before the encounter. We didn't talk at any length about sexual history, so there remains the possibility he was sexually active/exposed within the test window.
- He said he tests every three months.
- [YANMD] I recently came down with a elevated temperature (max 99.6 degrees), sore throat (mild discomfort), running nose, slightly enlarged lymph nodes, sore muscles, and more recently my tongue has turned slightly white and tingling on the surface.
- [YANMD] I have not taken any medicine for these symptoms. So far these symptoms have persisted for a little under a week, and several seem to be subsiding (normal temperature today).
- [YANMD] Many of these symptoms are the same as ARS, but none approach what online resources commonly describe as "the worst flu ever."