How to deal with my height
December 21, 2013 6:10 AM Subscribe
I'm a girl that is 1,76 m tall, and I'm having serious problems with my height. I'm getting really depressed with it over time and I've come to the point where I am completely desperate. I really need some help.
posted by Emily119 to Human Relations (86 answers total) 9 users marked this as a favorite
Starting this post I want to say that many of you will probably think of this as a ridiculous issue to be concerned about, but for me it's really disappointing and I can no longer deal with it.
So as I said, I'm 1,76 m tall, which is pretty damn tall for a lady.
I'm having serious problems dealing with that. Problem No.1 is that my boyfriend of 2 years is about 6 cm shorter than me, and it bothers me to death. For a man, he is not short at all. In fact, 1,70 m is pretty normal for a man's height as I only know few men who are a lot taller than him. He has never mentioned anything about our height difference, and everytime he sees how depressed I am over this he gets really sad and tries to show me how unimportant this is to him and how much more it counts that he loves me exactly the way I am.
But to me, he can say anything he wants, and it will never make it better. I know no other girl (and I know a lot of people) who is taller than me or even has the same height as me. Not even wearing heels.
What hurts me the most is how jealeous I get of any other girl I know, or just see walking down the street. Not only because she is normal, but because she would match perfectly to my boyfriend. They would be such a lovely picture together. He needs a girl who is (way) shorter than him, pretty, and even prettier in high heels. There are so many of them, all of them, and every single one would be perfect for him. And that is something that I can never give him. We walk down the street and I look like his giant friend; and I know that every man wants a smaller woman, someone he can "protect" and treat like his princess. And he deserves it so much.
Two days ago we went our with a friend of ours, who is very normal in height. She was wearing High heels, about 12 cm, and she was still shorter than him. I watched them walking next to each other and they were so beautiful. He looked like the tall, strong man with a pretty woman next to him with heels. And that's something I will never give him, I will always wear my ugly sneakers when we are invited somewhere fancy, and still be taller than him.
Sooner or later he will find someone shorter anyway, a girl that is just as beautiful as me, but just matches to him better. The way my body never matched with his. And to not make it so hard for him to find, I'm thinking about breaking up with him, to give him a chance to get out there. Hearts have to be broken before they find what they are really looking for.
So please, no matter what you might thing about me or my silly post, I just need an answer on how to deal with all this. I know I can not get any shorter, so this will follow me my entire life. I'm only 19 years old and it's driving me mad already.
Thanks a lot guys.