Staying in close contact with someone that has hurt you...bad idea?
December 21, 2013 4:13 AM Subscribe
I basically had a thing with this guy that I ended up wanting more commitment than he did. When I ended it, he begged me to stay in touch so we are. Details inside.
posted by sabina_r to Human Relations (13 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
I have to preface this by saying that I never was terribly invested in him but I still felt a sense of dissapointment and hurt feelings when I discovered that he was flirty chatting with another girl online. We were never exclusive or committed (he didn't want that) so my sense of hurt is maybe out of proportion. Still, he accepted the blame and was totally understanding of my feelings, apologized profusely and wanted me to stay in his life in some fashion. We are long distance which complicates things further.
After a brief NC period, I found myself chatting to him when bored. I feel less invested than ever and totally open to other guys. Still, our chats are often extremely sexy and flirtatious. I somehow wonder if in talking to him I am doing the wrong thing and ultimately damaging my self-esteem. We have started talking every day again with no future promises/talk. The idea of him talking to other girls doesn't bother me anymore. Am I fooling myself?
Just want your thoughts on this. Not sure if I should do strict NC or take it one day at the time and let what naturally happens unfold.