When is it appropriate to ask about someone's health?
December 19, 2013 6:20 PM Subscribe
A friend of mine (let's call her "Sarah") came over for dinner at my flat last week. Some way through the meal (just after the first bottle of wine was finished) she told us that her partner had recently been tested for a very serious medical condition. She then said that she "hadn't intended to talk about it".
She will have recently received the results of this test, and I'm wondering whether it's appropriate to ask her what the result of the test was.
I care a lot about Sarah and her partner (who is an incredibly warm and wonderful person), but I don't want to intrude. On the other hand, I don't want to be unsupportive.
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posted by anonymous to Human Relations (8 answers total)
I've known Sarah for about a year. My partner and I have had dinner had the house of Sarah and her partner. Sarah and I have hung out at a few social occasions. So we're friends, but not *very* close friends.
There is one possible complicating factor. I recently applied for a new job, and Sarah is on the search committee. If I were to get the new job, Sarah would be senior to me, but not my boss.