I've created a dirty talking monster
December 19, 2013 4:03 PM Subscribe
I've been having a wonderful (until recently) online relationship with a guy until I told him to talk dirty to me now he won't stop.
posted by sundaytea to Human Relations (19 answers total)
I've been talking to a guy I met online.He's a really nice guy and I had fun talking to him at one point.Then after a few months of talking without anything sexual being discussed I sent a message to him last week asking him basically to talk dirty to me.He told me that he respects me too much to talk to me like that (although it had been very mildly hinted at before) and I told him to try.He sent me a message and the first one was awkward but the next one was better.It was great the first few times but now that is all he does.Even if I don't reply to the sexual part of his message his next one is sexual.This is a man who use to reply to everything I said and now he barely response to something I've said or doesn't and all and just goes straight into the sex talk.We talk everyday sometimes multiple times a day, no one is that horny.He tells me about these supposed sex dreams he had about me that is weirdly perfect.It's always these little sex stories.I've gotten to the point where I've just stopped read the sex part of his messages.
Another thing that bothers me about his sex messages is that I'm very conservative sexually so when I'm reading his message it's like yuck he mentioned oral sex.Yuck he said doggy style.My fantasy sex is under the covers in the missionary position with the lights off.I've told him that my favorite position is missionary but yet in his little fantasies as far as I know from when I use to read the messages in it's entirety we've never been in the missionary position.So far I've tried to tell him once to stop this and tried to say it in a nice way.I told him to stop making me so horny and he got it for one message now it's back to the same old crap again.I just wanted us to talk like that occasionally twice a week at the absolute most.My sex drive isn't that high to be pretending that this sex talk is turning me on everyday multiple times and nor is his.He's a 54 year old man.So I'm asking this question because I'm at the point where everything that I'm thinking to say to him isn't nice.