My dead friend's cat is dying
December 18, 2013 5:55 AM Subscribe
A friend of mine died nearly thee years ago and his cat ended up in the care of my mother. The cat is now dying. Should I email my friend's family when the cat dies? If you were the friend's brother, is this an email you'd want to receive? (The obligatory picture
from healthier times.)
posted by hoyland to Human Relations (31 answers total)
I have an email address for my friend's brother from when we needed to work out the details of me rescuing Eaton from Animal Control. I've never met the brother or any of my friend's other family (the funeral was eight hours away and I couldn't go). My mother never even met my friend and I honestly don't remember if I ever told my friend's brother that Eaton had found a permanent home. My last contact may have been 'Letting you know he's safe and sound with me.' (I had committed to rescuing him and keeping him until he found another home.) The email would basically be "Hi, I wanted to let you know that Eaton died recently. I've attached some pictures of his life with my mom." Part of me thinks such an email would be appreciated and part of me thinks it would just be upsetting.